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yesh,,
akhirnya bisa posting lagi..

kangen kampus..
oya,,makasih buat temen2 kampus, temen2 jurusan, temen2 himpunan, temen2 angkatan, temen2 karisma, yang udah ngesms, nengokin, bw oleh2 dll..

nuhun pisan,,
buat oleh2nya, buat kunjungannya, buat sms2nya,

tengkyuuuu..

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oke, sebenernya bukan mau ngomongin itu,
itu mah selingan aja..

jadi mau ngomongin apa..??

apa ya..??
ga mau kasih contoh kasus ah, bingung, bisi jd ada yg ngerasa..

sedikit cuek itu baik koq,
kadang juga masalah yang ga penting2 amat bisa dilupain,

ga ngabisin waktu, pikiran, tenaga, emosi..
so, take it easy..

makanya,,
yuk kita tingkatin ruhiyah kita, jelang ramadhan nih..
perdalam lagi ilmu ikhlas bener2..

yep!

fenomena tingkat III : tugas , presentasi , dan parkir!!!

hari ini genap sudah 9 hari perkuliahan saya lewati. Hmmm, di tahun ketiga saya di kampus ini, ada beberapa hal yang saya perhatikan berubah cukup signifikan dan bisa dikatakan menjadi sebuah fenomena (weks, mentang2 ambil kuliah fenomena gelombang, dan fenomena transport, musim deh fenomena)..

1. Tugas, hmmm, tugasnya makin edan-edanan asli. ga kayak waktu saya tingkat 1 or 2, yg tugasnya itu asal kerjain aja (maksudnya tinggal ngitung, ga tinggal jg deng, yaaa, artinya cm cukup cari referensi aja cukup) nah sedangkan di tahun ketiga ini tugas2nya ga cuma itu. Ada pelibatan daya analisis mahasiswanya di sini, wah, rasa-rasanya dah mirip TA jg.

Asli, keotentikan data dan orisinalitas pemikiran emang dituntut banget disini. Dan kita, mau ga mau, dituntut buat jadi orang yang kreatif dan peka. Whew, percayalah makin banyak malam akan saya lewati dengan terjaga.

2. Presentasi, nahhh, ini implikasi dari tugas-tugas yang melibatkan pemikiran kita juga. Makanya, hasil pemikiran kita ini, biar valid kan harus dari berbagai macam referensi. jadi pemahaman kita kuat, ga cuma asumsi doang. Ga kaya kerjain soal matematik, kerjain kl ketemu jawabannya angkanya sama yaa bener..

dan untuk persiapan presentasinya juga, guys, it's not so damn that easy...!!

3. Parkir,,!! weleh,,mungkin rada-rada ga nyambung loh..tapi asli,,ini bener2 fenomena..!! sulitnya parkir di kampus gajah itu asli G I L A = G E L O, weks.. pwenuuuhhhhhh pisan, berjejal-jejalan.. iiihhhh,,

rasanya semua mahasiswa baru angkatan 2007 ga ada yg naik transportasi umum deh..pokonya jumlah motor rasanya sebanyak pasir di pantai, debu di gurun, semut di pohon mangga, giii..iii...ii..la dah..!! bwanjak bener..!!

asli,,

banyak pisan..

mudah2an saya bisa segera lulus dari kampus ini sebelum parkirnya makin-makin-makin..

hiiihhhh,,


so,
SEMESTER 5..

here i go...!!!

weks, 1.5 taung lg TT

genap sudah 2,5 tahun gigi saya dipagari sesuatu yg secara rutin membuat sariawan bersarang di bibir saya. Juga secara konsisten mengakibatkan saya tidak bisa mengkonsumsi beberapa jenis makanan.

yaks, tadi saya baru dari si dokter buat kontrol si pager. Dan karena kontrol yang sekarang udah terlambat 1,5 bulan alhasil saya diomelin sama si dokternya (lagi-lagi)..

rada males jg euy kontrol teh,
soalnya, pasti tiap abis kontrol langsung ga bisa makan. Makan nasi rasa makan batu. sengsara abis kan..!!

jadi we, kontrol yg kuduna sebulan sekali, malah jd molor bisa sampe 3 bulan,,hwehwehwe,,*dasar pamalesan*..

dan,,
tadi sembari si dokter ngobrak-abrik si mulut terjadi sebuah percakapan

Saya (S) : Dok,,
Drg. M (M) : ya..
S : kira-kira, kapan ya ni perkakas gigi ini dicabut??
M : hmmmm,,yaa kalo rajin mah cepet.. tinggal ngerapetin aja,,udah rapi sebenernya.. cm blm kuat
S : ooo,,akhirnya dok,,
M : yaa,yang rajin aja ya..
S : eh dok, emang cepetnya tuh berapa lama..??
M : ya, kalo behelnya dicabut mah setauneun lagi lah bisa, asal rajin tiap bulan lho.. kl kelewat-kelewat lg mah, tar molor lg..
S : wekkss,, lama bener dok.. trus udah aja, jd bagus kan??
M : hmmm,, belum..habis itu pasang kawat lepasan,,yaaaaa,, palingan setengah taun lah..
S : aduh dok,,
M : kl kawat yg lepasan itu harus bener2 rajin,, malahan kl bisa lebih dr 6 bulan,,setaun lebih bagus lagi..
S: oh noooo, dok..arrgghh (ini sakit beneran lantaran si kawatnya dah dikencengin..)

-selesai-
hwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa,,,sakit gigiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii...

tetep semangat!

hidup ini menarik,,
mirip pertandingan sepakbola..

selama pertandingan, ada suka, ada duka, ada sorak-sorai, ada cidera, ada emosi, ada gelak tawa, ada tetes air mata, ada perseteruan, ada persahabatan, ada macem-macem lah, semua ada..

dalam pertandingan sepakbola, ketika kita tengah menikmati kerjasama tim membantai tim lawan, ketika asik mengurung lawan dengan gempuran-gempuran serangan, bisa saja kita kecolongan, ada satu kesalahan, ada satu kejadian tak terduga, yang bisa membuat kita tersentak,,

entahlah kebobolan tiba-tiba, pemain yang cidera, yahh, banyak hal lah..

namun,
pertandingan masih berlanjut, bung!! peluit akhir belum bertiup, boleh jadi kita bersedih, boleh jadi kita menangis, namun.. segera bangkit kawan, hapus air matamu, tegakkan kepalamu, dan...

kembali berteriak, kembali berlari, kembali kejar bolanya,, mari bersenang-senang bermain sepakbola, nikmati permainannya.. jangan larut dalam kesedihan, kawan!!

*tetap semangat*

TT_besok dah mulai kuliah_TT

cinta-cintaan..

jadi,,
setelah baca postingan saya di bawah itu,,
mengerti kan?? untuk melakukan 'itu' tuh bukan pekerjaan yang mudah..!!

makanya,,saya mah ga akan buru-buru seperti yang diidam-idamkan oleh sebagian besar kawan saya (hahaha..)
nikmatin ajalah bung, prosesnya masih panjang..

hehe,,
ngerti kan??

jadi??
kalian masih keukeuh ga peduli tentang hal-hal lain keukeuh we asal cinta aja??
yah,,whatever lah..
silakan nikmati kehidupan masing-masing..

hehe,,
*maap klo ada yg saya kecewain yaaa..really, it's not that easy!!*

[ga] semuanya karena cinta

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the
ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another
person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are
they wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people
whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi
drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they
have gratitude and appreciation?

If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them
everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that
someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly
as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this
person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the
intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married. As a
colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to
change after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this
person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.
The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with
your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are
dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the
key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up
with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble
because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective. ..

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a
distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of
or at least minimize your time with draining, negative,
incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the
relationships around you.

Pay attention...
Which ones lift and which ones lean?

Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?

Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going
downhill?

When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?

Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or
appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and
truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who
gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony
of your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes
open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved
and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation,
immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem
make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool
yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults
aren't really that important.

Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete,
compare and control?

What do you bring to the relationship?

Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past
pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make
someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you
won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your
happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and
security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:

1. TRUST

2. COMMUNICATION

3. INTIMACY

4. A SENSE OF HUMOR

5. SHARING TASKS

6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN

7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,
etc.)

8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS

9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE

10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF
COMMITMENT

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as
resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will
replace.

cinta 'doang' ga cukup!!

hmmm,,
akhir2 ini saya banyak menerima 'undangan'..yang lantas membuat saya sedikit berpikir tentang hal 'itu'..
benarkah untuk menjalankan sebuah hubungan itu cukup hanya berlandaskan 'cinta' doang??
jujur, menurut saya ga..
ada yang lebih dari sekedar cinta yang kita butuhkan untuk membentuk sebuah hubungan,,
here they are..

artikel dari sebuah milis,,
dan saya setuju banget!!

     FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER

Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner,
no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to
50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their
approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married,
they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the ..1 mistake
people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be
based on love. Though this may sound "not politically correct",
there's a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the
result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right,
then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a
lifetime relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious
about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married
for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do
you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog
together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful.
You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage:
(1) You can grow together, or
(2) You can grow apart.

50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage
work, you need to know what you want out of life!

Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts
with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.
Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The
basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I
won't get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and
feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone
with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be
honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally
safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can
you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth
on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A
teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always
striving to be good and do the right ";. So ask about your
significant other: What do
they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a
materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character
refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world:
(1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and
(2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort.
Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal
comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know
that before walking down the aisle.

*bersambung*

the string

kini senar-senar itu telah membunyikan frekuensi yang berbeda..
tak lagi berbunyi menghasilkan dentingan nada indah,,
tak lagi bersatu..

saatnya cari instrumen lain??????
hmm,,

yahh,,
semoga senar2 itu dapat kembali membunyikan nada indah di instrumen yang lain,,
mungkin memang instrumen ini memang tak lagi jadi tempat yang pas untuk senar-senar ini berkumpul..

apologize and forgiveness

nobody's perfect,
setiap orang tak luput dari kesalahan,,
and those such things..

mungkin jadi yang melatari aktivitas2 yang saya jadikan judul postingan saya yang ini,
memberi dan menerima maaf..

keduanya,
membutuhkan hati yang lapang, keikhlasan, kerendahan serta ketulusan hati melawan keangkuhan dan kesombongan diri..

dan pastinya, keduanya sama2 sulit dilakukan,,
well, really neither to forgive nor to apology is easy..

oya, to forgive disini bukan berarti kalo orang yg bermasalah itu udah ask for apology,,forgiveness is not given by asking, is it..??
so do apology,,

both to forgive and to apology must come within our deepest heart..

hanya,
bagaimana untuk melawan kenagkuhan diri ketika hendak meminta/memberi maaf..

meminta/memberi maaf sama sulitnya dengan mengatakan cinta bukan..??
*aaaiiihhh* ngelantur gini..